Sometimes I hear/read people use the word “nice” to describe a Domme as if it’s a bad thing. What’s wrong with being a nice Domme? Is the cookie cutter, queen bitch Domme really always expected? I don’t even know how one can be “on” like that all the time either. They can’t. Or if they are, wouldn’t they just be awful people to be around? (I’m not just talking about in the presence of their sub/slave/bottom, but anyone they may have contact with on a daily basis.)
I probably fall under the category of being the *gasp* nice Domme. This is not to say I’m not firm with my pet when I’m with him, when there are orders for him. I am not soft where it counts. To me, being Domme doesn’t mean being a grade A bitch….at least not all the time. It’s also about how she carries herself. Showing confidence. How she controls her sub without having to go the bitch route. Really, the only time I can say I get mean ans enjoy it on a certain level is when during play, I’m inflicting things on my willing victim…err, I mean subject.
I know there are subs/slaves who get off on or feel they need to have that kind of dynamic. Being barked at, treated meanly, being humiliated. I’m not the person for them…..well okay, a little bit of humiliation can be fun, depending on the type and circumstances. But what I’m saying is, unless you really piss me off, it is just not in my nature to be the full on, all the time, cruel Domme that seems to be more the norm than the nicer one. Why can’t there be room for both as the norm and whatever is in between?
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